A young man in his early twenties walked briskly into an organization for an interview with all the “confidence in the world”. Having graduated from one of the best schools in the world, one wouldn’t expect less than the Italian suit and shoes he wore coupled with the Rolex wristwatch he was putting on. Amazingly he met a lady just some few steps before the receptionist. Trying to catch up with time the lady incidentally stepped on him. Not even waiting for any form of apology he busted into nagging. The lady tried all she could to calm him down but only then did his uncontrolled anger aggravated. He ranted for some few minutes even after the lady had gone, then he finally went to the receptionist to be directed to his place of interview. Getting to the spot of interview he discovered that the lady he had just finished ranting on was the head of the panel conducting the interview. You could imagine what happened even after emerging as the most qualified paper-wise in that interview. We have become so charisma oriented that we have thrown away an important quality as character. Charisma may sure be a ladder to top but only character will sustain you there.
Character simply put is the set of qualities that make somebody or something distinctive, especially somebody’s qualities of mind and feeling. It starts with just an action grows in to a habit and finally turns out to become a character. Whereas Charisma is the ability to inspire enthusiasm, interest, or affection in others by means of personal charm or influence. Everybody may possess charisma but we can’t clearly say everybody has the positive character. Character in in terms of personal perspective and in terms relating with people are necessities that must be well built in the life of every individual that must be successful.
- Personal perspective: this aspect covers everything that has to do with the behaviour and conduct of an individual in such a way that he or she can be identified with such traits. Personal perspective of character includes eating habits, neatness, discipline, diligence and mindsets amongst others. Poor eating habits, carelessness, lack of diligence and wrong mindsets has contributed greatly to the setbacks in the life of so many in recent days. A guy once told me he was breaking up with his fiancée simply because he felt the lady was poor in cleanliness. We overlook so many “basics” that eventually turns out to become the little foxes that spoil the vine in our lives. I see no reason why a young lady should be poor in cooking and other house chores knowing so well that these are basics she should have developed while growing up. You like it or not they are so many things you must develop yourself “to do” and “not do”. Time management is part of the components of good character and it’s built over time just like every other components of character.
- Relating with People; this aspect of character deals with the way an individual relates with people and not just him or herself. From the interview story I earlier narrated you would discover that the guy was deficient in the aspect of character that pertains to relating with people. You may have developed all the best of personal character in good measure but you must also build the way you relate with people well. Poor talking habits and poor socialising habits could end up terminating all the prospects of your charisma if you don’t work on them. Your ability to accommodate the excesses of people as well as speaking politely and correctly is part of the attributes of the good character that you must develop.
Having explained in a sketchy form, what character is all about you must know that the benefits of positive character over charisma includes’
- Enduring success
- Self confidence
- Reliability and trustworthiness
- unplanned opportunities amongst so many others
What defines a man are the things he/she does, believe and think and these things are what make up his character. Building a positive character is obviously more dependable than just having some level of charisma. It may interest you that developing a positive character is a process that takes time but just as “Rome was not built in one day” you must be ready to pay for the sacrifice you will have to make to finally get what you want. Charisma can only make you a king but you need a good character to remain a king.