When the emotional intensity and severity of your behaviour doesn’t match the situation at hand, YOU ARE OVER REACTING.
We all get angry; however women more often than men, and atimes we ask, could this be because the women folk feel powerless, out of control, insecure, injustice?. Anger is not a bad thing actually but over reacting is another matter on its own entirely, sometimes is perceived that the closer your attachment and relationship with someone the more their words seems to affect to you. Though often than ever there is a show of external over reactions by visible responses that others can see (e.g lashing out in anger, throwing your hands up and walking away from
a situation etc.) and there is an exhibition of internal over reaction through emotional responses that remains inside that others may or may not be aware of; most especially wondering if you said the right thing, over analyzing a comment made by a friend or loved one. Personally I have come to discover that most times statements made while over reacting to an issue always attracts response of same velocity with the statements so made out of over reaction.
Many a times over the years there have been issues when it comes to understanding women, though it is generally believed that women are guided by their emotions rather than rational thinking, women compared to men are more open with their emotions, therefore it is recognized they are more emotional than logical and often act irrationally.
It is no surprise that many men and women have trouble agreeing on certain things. The fact is that we are different, and with those differences comes huge misunderstandings. Carpenter opines in his work “power of the sub-
conscious mind” that besides the physical differences, there are emotional differences and, as a result, men and women interact differently, it went further to state that men are goal oriented and want to work out their problems alone, most women are more into relationship and feelings. They need to talk to someone who just listens, these are valid differences, but even if you do not know this much, man and women can still talk and get along, at worst if the differences are too large, they can go their separate ways.
Perhaps the root of what causes the constant clashing of words between the two sexes is the fact that while most men can simply make a decision and stick to it whether they regret it or not, women have no problem changing every detail of their original plan even if it is last minute or it causes much more inconvenience than necessary.
THEY ARE INDECISIVE:
Women can go from being in a fantastic mood to suddenly miserable mood within minutes. The reason for attitude swings of this nature is not PMS (premenstrual syndrome) or other hormonal factors they try to blame it on, it is simply because they cannot decide if they want to be in a good or bad mood. They also change their mood based on whom they are surrounded with to act more in accordance to how they feel when their behavior is really just putting a damper on
everyone else’s good time. These are the kind of women that change their clothes five to ten times before leaving the house or randomly refuse to speak if they are around someone that they dislike. Deciding on a restaurant suddenly becomes a difficult task, but not as difficult as figuring out which change of plans she’ll come
up with at the last minute.
Much of the indecision may be influenced by the way a woman can react. Something as simple as a text message can be analyzed and read into for a half hour when the only words in the message read “hey what are you up to today?”. She will ask everyone of her friends what it might mean and how the question was supposed to be delivered when in actuality the guy was probably just wondering what your
plans were for the day. Women also overreact after their friend does something that irks them for some reason. While women go through friends like they never even existed, men tend to see the situation for what it is and resolve the problem instead of cutting communication off and searching for new friends.
While men are in a bad mood, they know it’s only a pointless distraction and then get on with their lives. Women, on the other hand seem to have the urge to become more vocal about their problems, regardless of how unimportant the issue may be. They will complain to whoever listens and when asked why they are in such a craze they simply blame it on hormones. It has gotten to a point in time where women straight up know they are overreacting yet decide to blame it on that lovely time of the month. They blame so much of their irrational actions on their hormones or PMS that men now have reason to believe that the cycle of a woman’s period never stops, it just gets particularly worse for a certain four days. Women just don’t know how to deal with what goes on in their heads. This is why they need
men, to witness how different life could be if men don`t succumb to the urge to break down emotionally every time they are not pleased with the current situation. If only women were not too distracted by their overreactions to learn why men don’t handle stress the way they do. Women still do not understand that letting inconvenience get the best of you does not help you feel better. They need to acknowledge how pointless it is to get worked up over little things.
If someone offends you, consider the possibility that the insult is not about you. Maybe the neighbor who snapped at you was just given a pay cut at work and is feeling discouraged, or the person who cut you off in traffic is rushing to the hospital to see the birth of his first child. Make up a back story that makes sense and put a positive spin on whatever is triggering your emotional response. Scholarly Dr. Judith P. Siegel suggests asking yourself the following questions to assess
whether you have a problem with overreacting.
=Do you often:
-Regret things you say in the heat of emotion?
-Lash out at loved ones?
-Have to apologize to others for your actions or
-Feel surprised at your seemingly uncontrollable reactions?
-Assume the worst about people and situations?
-Withdraw when things get emotionally overwhelming?
If you answered “yes” to the questions above you may struggle with overreaction.
WHY DO WOMEN OVER REACT 1 by Ocheh Emmanuel