According to “eHarmony.com” Poets , songwriters and even scientists
have pondered the question: what is love and what is lust? Sometimes it can be difficult to tell if you are in lust or love, both are hard to define and the division of the two can get blurry. Love is one of life’s most intense emotions, and when you are in lust it’s easy to think you are feeling love but the two are different. If you’ve been struck by Cupid’s arrow, read on to learn if what you’ve found is love or lust. Are You in Lust or Love?
Love commonly starts out as lust and the two might even have an overlapping stage at some point in the relationship or lust may never turn into love. Lust is what first brings people together. It’s that initial desire to be with the person, while love is the desire to stay with him or her. They are both experiences felt by a person for another person but when you feel lust for someone, generally you’re just attracted to him or her; you don’t have that deep emotional connection that you feel when you love a person.
As I said last edition, time is a major factor in deciding what you are actually felling. Further more, SIGNS OF LUST
You’re totally focused on a person’s looks and body.You’re interested in having sex, but not in having conversations. You’d rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss real feelings.
You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast the next morning. You are lovers, but not friends.
SIGNS OF LOVE
You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
You want to honestly listen to each other’s feelings, make each other happy.
He or she motivates you to be a better person.
You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.
FOUR NEGATIVE GUT FEELINGS ABOUT
A little voice in your gut says “danger” or “beware.”
You have a sense of malaise, discomfort, or feeling drained after you’re together.
Your attraction feels destructive or dark.
You’re uncomfortable with how this person is treating you, but you’re afraid that if you mention it, you’ll push him or her away.(www.drjudithorloff.com/Free-Articles/Difference-Between-Love-and-Lust.htm:2017). Therefore what you feel towards that fellow will either end as lust or grow to love if you take your time to get closer and spend more “quality” time together. On this not, we draw the cutting for this edition. Please do join us next time.
I remain my humble self, Temitope saying by for now.