Temi-T Heart Clinic

25 Feb

You are welcome back from the brake, It’s still Temi-T Heart clinic,  according to Do you want happiness? The answer to that question is an obvious yes. Guess what? Money can increase your happiness. So many people do not agree that money can buy you happiness. This is not entirely true. Money cannot give happiness, but it can increase the level of happiness that people have.

A father, who is a happy person by nature, will be even happier if he can send his children to good schools and give them good clothes, whereas the father, who cannot do the same for his children, over time will become a depressed person who looks at life in general with a big frown. So many cases abound of families who have been torn apart because of money, where relationships dissolved because of money, and this is not because the persons involved are so materialistic.

Nigerian men, for example, think that most women are materialistic, money hungry goblins, but the truth is that most women just want their basic needs to be met. How do you show your love to a woman with just words? Love is giving, and the only way to do that is by being able to provide for her. No father will willingly give his daughter in marriage to a man with no prospects for the future. Even a man will feel bad about himself, if he is not well-dressed, and if he does not stand out among his contemporaries that are looking good.

Give the man a choice between a well-dressed lady and a rag-wearing lady, and he will pick the well-dressed lady any day. It takes money to dress well, eat well, speak well and get knowledge (education). So, it is a wonder when men say that women like money too much; when they themselves cannot do without it. According to an article on the Yahoo website, money can buy you happiness in eight ways; 

it can help you buy time with your loved ones (hiring helps to do the chores, while you spend time with your loved ones), buy you wonderful

presents, take you on vacation, buy the latest technology gadgets, get a new car, and buy a treadmill or sneakers

9 simple ways to avoid money fights in your relationship

Written by Dr. Patty Ann,

 Romantic relationships are a partnership of two people who have decided to share in the joys and sorrows of a committed life together. Married couples take the vows: “For better or worse, for richer or poorer” – Stop right there. People say vows similar to the ones just written, but do we really mean them? – especially, the part about “for richer or poorer”! Even though we say these words – if we are totally honest with ourselves, we really mean: “but I hope it’s for richer”. Common sense dictates that no one in his or her right mind would want to be poor. I mean honestly, getting rich is a want for everyone.

The following are some simple ways or guidelines for handling money issues throughout your relationship, so you don’t have to end up fighting about money. Consider these guidelines to be your relationship tools for keeping the spark alive, whether you are dealing with the “richer” or “poorer” times in your relationship.

1 – Know thyself. Be aware of what money really represents to you (this might require a little bit of soul searching here) – and do not impose your attitudes and beliefs about money onto your partner.

2 – Know what money really represents to your partner. And don’t try to convince them that they should be more like you! (I know you know what I mean).

3 – Communicate your individual attitudes and values about money to each other so you develop a joint strategy you are both comfortable with.

Think of this as your financial blueprint for relationship harmony! Develop a clear, concise plan for how you use your money; that is, how you spend it, and how you save it. If you happen to come into a financial windfall – an inheritance or you hit the lottery (hey, somebody has to win) – discuss and develop a strategy for how you will use that money. Money that people “fall” into is often the start of a very slippery slope for the unravelling of relationships if plans for these monies are not discussed. This is why you need to be very clear on guideline number three folks!

4 – When you find you are at a crossroads when it comes to money issues, clearly communicate your differences to each other, using respect as your baseline. This will avoid all the finger pointing, blaming and accusations inherent in the following statements: “You don’t care how I feel about blah, blah, blah when it comes to spending money” etc., etc., etc.

5 – When differences regarding financial decisions come up (and they will), respect these differences without accusing the other of being cheap, irresponsible or spending money like it is going out of style. Doing this will keep the issue focused on the differences regarding the finances and avoid the pitfall of entering the dead man’s zone of character assassination!

6 – Keep money in its proper perspective in your relationship.

7 – Money does not define your relationship or your love for each other. Do not allow money to come between the two of you. Keep your love and respect for each other at the core of your relationship and defend this love at all costs.

8 – Love is the platform whereby all financial decisions will be made – “in good times and in bad, for richer for poorer”.

9 – Make no mistake about it; money is an absolute necessity in life. If we use love as our platform and respect as our baseline, money will have its appropriate place in our relationship. Although all differences regarding the handling of money might not always be reconciled, we will at least be able to “agree to disagree” respectfully, regarding money issues.

In conclusion, money is vital in every relationship but it should not be the major determinant for the success of our relationship, love is the most but money should also have It’s place because both parties have a responsibility to be financially committed to the growth of the relationship.  So my wonderful people, on this note we call it a day, please you can send in topics you want us to address or relationship issues that are pressing  . See you next time,  I remain Temi-Tope

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