Show me your bae and I will tell you what you have been doing.
ACTS OF SERVICE.
Partners whose love language is acts of service love to help others out and love to have others help them out! These partners will probably show up with enthusiasm and seem excited to do you a favor (e.g., get chicken soup for you if you are sick). These are also the partners that feel so loved and cared for when you serve them in some way.
Don’t be that typical African lady who meets her bae washing and doesn’t even offer to help but will have all the stories to bore him while he is washing, don’t be that typical Nigerian guy who will come and meet his bae cooking in the kitchen and sit in the parlour and be commending her cooking skills and call her all sort of lovely names without offering to help out.
If your sweetheart speaks Acts of Service, he or she is probably happy when you do an undesirable job such as tiding up the ward rope, washing dishes. Have you ever fixed an appliance or untangled a necklace only to get the world’s biggest “thank you” from your honey.
Recommendations for Showing Love to Someone Through Acts of Service
Look for Opportunities to Serve Him or Her
There are obvious ways to help your partners whose love language is acts of service, but there are also other ideas which you can uncover by paying careful attention. Maybe he always forgets to get a church bulletin until he is already settled into his seat on Sunday morning. Slip out and go pick him up a bulletin. He will appreciate the thought. Perhaps she is always forgetting her lipstick. Find out what shade she wears and keep a stick in your car, in your house. She will find it sweet that you were thoughtful and made her life a little easier.
Help With Chores
This is pretty cute and dry. Help around the house, help in the yard, help with a project, help with a ministry, help with Christmas shopping ; the sky is the limit to how much help you can give your partners whose love language is acts of service. First, find out the chores he or she grossly despises and capitalize on them. Does she hate cleaning out the garage because she always runs into spiders? Be her valiant knight and kill the spiders (and clean the garage)! Is his shower black with filth? What an act of love it is to clean a single man’s shower! Can you fix computers? Then you always have a way to show love through Acts of Service.
Pamper Him or Her
It is raining. Her car is across the parking lot. Take the keys and trudge through the puddles in an attempt to keep your lady love dry and happy. He is feeling poorly after three weeks of working sixteen hour days, he is under the weather, Set him up on the couch with his favorite magazines, games (iPad, computer, etc.), and bring him the remote. Make him his favorite food. Maybe it sounds cheesy, but he will appreciate it more!
Offer Help to Your Sweetheart When He or She is Feeling Insecure
Just as a Physical Touch person needs a hug when he or she is down or a Words of Affirmation person needs a verbal pick me up, Acts of Service people need their sweethearts to serve them. If your girlfriend has a huge presentation to give at work the next day and she is feeling overwhelmed, help her organize her files. Bring her a favorite cup of herbal tea. Go fill her gas tank so she does not have to worry about it in the morning while she is crawling with nerves. Tell her that you will bring her lunch after the presentation to help her celebrate its completion! All of this practical help will show your Service person that you highly value her.
Let Your Help Come from the Heart Make Doing Acts of Service a Habit
Even the most tiresome jobs in life become easier the more we do them (largely because our competence in doing them increases). The faster we make something a habit, the sooner we can stop forcing ourselves to constantly think about it. If you need to show your honey Acts of Service, make yourself do it faithfully for a while and before you know it you will be doing it without thinking twice!
Make sure you are helping and giving because you want to; however, don’t overextend yourself and feel resentful for doing the lion’s share of the giving.
Acts of Service lovers don’t want people helping them out of obligation. They love a cheerful helper! A happy smile and a helping hand translates to “You are the best and I love you!” And if your honey does speak the language of Service, he or she will probably be serving you a lot as well. After all, it comes naturally for them!
This is LOVE&YOU on Treasure Network with Ocheh Emmanuel.
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