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Love and you

​Hmmmn! You had TIME while asking her out or saying yes to him, but to keep him/her you are now BUSY, there is ……oh!

“YOU CAN NEVER HAVE TIME FOR WHAT YOU DON’T MAKE OUT TIME FOR”

You are welcome to yet another edition of  LOVE & YOU

We are looking at the part 5 of

 Understand her LOVE Language .

We shall be focusing on the topic:

 QUALITY TIME

Quality time is giving someone your undivided attention.

For some partners, quality time is their primary love language, and if you don’t give them quality time, they will not feel loved.

You may think quality time is all about spending A LOT o f time together or going out and doing a lot of things together. Maybe that sounds exhausting or expensive. Loving a partner whose love language is quality time actually has very little to do with the amount of time you spend together and but has so much to do with HOW you spend the time you do have together.

#How do you know QUALITY TIME is his /her love language?

Quality time is a powerful emotional communicator of love. One medicine does not cure all diseases. Just as one love language does not communicate emotionally to all people. If you give your partner affirming words; if you express love by acts of service; if you touch them affectionately; and they still complain: “you are always too busy or too tired, you don’t ever have time for me” they are telling you that their primary love language is QUALITY TIME.

The #Essence of Quality Time

A central aspect of quality time is togetherness. I do not mean proximity (distance). Togetherness has to do with focused attention. A guy talking to his partner and punching phone is not giving her quality time or a lady talking with her partner on the phone and still doing another thing is not giving him a quality time, because he/she does not have his/her full attention.

#Dialects of Quality Time

Like words of affirmation, the language of quality time also has many dialects. One of the most common dialects is that of #quality_conversation . By quality conversation, I mean sympathetic dialogue where two people are sharing their experiences, their thoughts, their feelings, and their desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. If your partner’s primary love languages is quality time, such dialogue is crucial to his or her emotional sense of being loved.

 Five Keys to Loving a Quality 

Time Love Language partner

1.  Give them your UNDIVIDED attention

Put the phone down! Nothing says ‘I love you’ like full undivided attention.

YES! For quality timers, undivided attention is the name of the game, don’t talk to them while you are focused on something else, it will drive them bonkers. Not while you’re watching something, not while you’re Facebooking, not while you’re gaming. If you are in the middle of something and they want to talk, it is better to say, “Just a sec, I’m almost done,” and then give them your full attention when you talk rather than trying to have a conversation while you are distracted.

2.  Maintain eye contact .

Maintaining eye contact tells your spouse that you have their full attention and will make them feel loved and understood. Quality conversation with sustained eye contact can be the key to his/her heart. Also listen for feelings. Ask yourself, “What emotion is he/she experiencing?”

3.  If you don ’t have much time, make the most out of the time you do have.

Even if it is only 10 minutes a day- make those 10 minutes count! Focus on each other. Talk, connect, express love etc. Just make it intentional and focused. Ten minutes of pure connection will yield much better results in way of connecting than two hours of being together without focused attention on each other

4.  Actively listen without interrupting .

A quick reminder on how to actively listen with the F.L.A.P. method: Focus, Lean, Affirm

(Paraphrase) and Probe (ask thoughtful questions).

Active listening is one of the most loving things you can do for your partner regardless of their love language, but unfortunately it’s not intuitive. Most of us go to stating our opinion, jumping to conclusions and interrupting. In short, we think of ourselves and our thoughts, words and opinions more than we think of our partners when we’re talking to them. This takes conscious effort to reverse, and there is no better time than the present to start practicing!

Perhaps the quickest mind trick is to actively try putting yourself in their shoes- try to see the world how they see it and feel the things they feel- while your partner is talking to you. Interrupting is like nails on a chalkboard for someone whose love language is quality time. It makes them feel unheard and uncared for.

5. Offer sympathy ,not advice.

We are often trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve. A relationship calls for sympathetic listening with a view to understanding the other person’s thoughts, feelings and desires. We must be willing to give advice but only when it is requested and never in a condescending manner.” – Gary Chapman

We just want to talk to be heard and understood NOT evaluated and instructed. Most times we ask: “Wait, do you want advice on this?” And that is a great question because most of the time the other one says no.

Conclusion

If you are in a relationship with someone whose love language is quality time- make the most of the time you have together, make eye contact, put the phone down and actively listen while he/she is talking. And if he/she wants your opinion, he/she will motion or ask for it.

JUST LISTEN ,  BE WITH HIM/

HER AND BE IN HIM/HER

This is  LOVE & YOU on

 Treasure Network with

 Ocheh Emmanuel .

See you same time, next week.

HAPPY WEEKEND.

We would love to hear from you as you share your opinions or reach us through

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Posted by on July 15, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

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On Heralds this week is……..
Dora Akunyili

She is one of the most notable women Nigeria has ever had more particularly because of her contributions to the health sector of Nigeria. Dora Nkem Akunyili was born on the 14th July 1954 in Markudi Benue state but grew up in her state of origin Anambra state, Nigeria. She was an excellent student and this was clearly displayed in her performance at school. She had her first degree in pharmacy in 1978 on a scholarship basis from the Eastern Nigerian Government Post Primary Scholarship and the Federal Government of Nigeria Undergraduate Scholarship. This first degree was obtained from the famous University of Nigeria Nsuka where she later obtained her PhD in 1985. Professor Dora as she later rose to become was a very disciplined and focused woman. She started her career as a pharmacist from 1978 to 1981, in the University of Nigeria Teaching Hospital (UNTH), Enugu, after which she ventured into academics as a Graduate Assistant (Research Fellow) in Faculty of Pharmaceutical Sciences, UNN from 1982 to 1986. While there she did tremendously well as she rose through the ladder of her career until she became a senior lecturer in 1990 and subsequently transferred to the to College of Medicine, UNN in 1992, where she was made a Consultant Pharmacologist in 1996, a position she held until 12 April 2001. Dora was a very honest woman who not only worked in the academia but also worked in the governing sector of her country. She was a Zonal Secretary of Petroleum Special Trust Fund (PTF), co-ordinating all projects in the five south-eastern states of Nigeria (Abia, Anambra, Ebonyi, Enugu and Imo States) for four years, She also served as a Supervisor for Agriculture and Member of the Caretaker Committee for her Local Government, Anaocha Local Government Area of Anambra State from 1994 to 1996. Akunyili served as a member of State’s Hospitals Management Board and State Advisory Council for Women Commission both in Anambra State of Nigeria from From 1992 to 1994. 

She obviously was well groomed with leadership activity before her appointment as the   Director General of the National Agency for Food and Drug Administration and Control (NAFDAC), Nigeria from April 2001-2008. Before her assumption of office all manner of adulterated, fake and substandard food and drugs were injected into Nigeria resulting in over 60 percent of fake drugs in circulation. But in the course of her tenure she brought in a new culture of excellence and honesty to NAFDAC and the entire Nigerian public service hence reducing the level of fake and counterfeit drugs in circulation to 16.7 percent with vast improvement in the food and other regulated sectors. She also served as minister of information from 2008 to 2010 where she also made impart in her own unique way. Before her death she ran for election as Senator for Anambra Central for the APGA in April 2011 but was defeated by Chris Ngige of the ACN . She immediately sent a petition to the Independent National Electoral Commission disputing the result. Akunyili died in an Indian hospital on 7 June 2014 of cancer. Dora had won so many international and local awards before her death. Dora was married to Dr Chike Akunyili and their marriage was blessed with six children who are doing so well in their various fields..     

Moral Lessons

Forever Nigeria and the world at large can not forget professor Dora Akunyili so quickly because she was a practical example of discipline,honesty and focus. She fought and stood for what was right without any form of religious, or tribal sentiments. She risked her own life to ensure the right thing was done and to a great extent she was a success. So in simple terms our lessons are questions,

¶ What will you be remembered for?

¶ What will you exchange for doing the right thing?

¶ What do you think will stop you from standing for the truth?

Learn from Professor Dora akunyili’s life today and be the change your world is waiting for.

Its being Heralds with Julius O. Akubo on Treasure network. catch you next week.

Don’t forget to download, read and share the just released Treasure Magazine volume 7.

Wishing you a blessed week..

 
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Posted by on July 14, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

Entrepreneurship Today

Welcome to another Informative edition of entrepreneurship today from Treasure Network. We appreciate you for joining us every week and we do hope we have been adding value to you.

Last week we discussed an entrepreneurs mindset, if you missed it please do read as it will help you develop a right entrepreneurs mindset.

On today’s edition of the program, we would be discussing Networking. Networking is an essential skill for business people and invaluable to entrepreneurs for building strong relationships with other entrepreneurs from different age, group, nationality and field of interest.

According to small business encyclopedia, networking is ” developing and using contacts made in business for purposes beyond the reason for the initial contact”.

Networking is important for growing a business and successful entrepreneurs know that the lifeblood of their business is found in making the right connections.

Whether its for potential business partners, marketing, sales, consultation or just to escape the loneliness of being a solopreneur. making connections is vital for business growth. Networking is an easy task for some especially the extroverts and for many it may not be so easy. My intention today is to share some proven practices that can help strengthen your Networking skill and grow your business.

1. Start with a plan: For any aspect of a business to succeed it starts with a good plan, networking isn’t any different. Most entrepreneurs leave this aspect to chance. Which shouldn’t be so. It should be planned and followed. In drafting a plan, ask yourself the following questions: who would I need to connect with to be successful? What groups, individuals, or company could be most beneficial to my business? What will help me to grow as an entrepreneur? How can I connect with them? Write down your answers and prioritize your networking activities in the course of a day, week and month. Incorporate your activities into your calendar and commit to a plan with a timeline.

2. Build and become a resource on Social media: It amazes me how business owners never explore the full potentials of networking on social media. It is so easy these days to build contacts and connections on social media. Use platforms like Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn to produce contents, market your business, comment on and engage with relevant industries content to build trust among your followers. This will help you network with contacts who can reach out to you and you can reach out to.

LinkedIn is a sophisticated platform for business professionals, use it often to update, share, congratulate and connect with like minds. Leverage on the power of the internet to grow your network around your business.

Its been Entrepreneurship today from Treasure network. Join us nextweek as we continue on the subject matter and share more practices that can help you grow your network and business.

We would love to hear from you as you leave a comment or write us at tnetwork430@gmail.com

I’m your anchor Aaron Ikoojo.

Have a blessed week. 

 
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Posted by on July 14, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

FashionwithIK

Thanks for your followership and readership smiles.

Today we will be looking at possible ways of looking good.

Looks may not be everything, but it sure doesn’t hurt to be east on the eyes.looking good can be for your own personal reasons. To be good looking, you’ll need the right attitude, the right tips and tricks up your sleeve.

You can follow the steps below;

*Take time to dress well

*Identify the desired look you’d like to have

*Learn how to properly apply makeup

*Get a new haircut

*Be confident about your dressing

Always remember that looking good has only one side effect which is attraction

 
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Posted by on July 11, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

Love and You

I asked “why do most ladies only understand GIVE! GIVE!! GIVE!!! and always use it to measure stinginess among the guyz during a relationship seminar, my brother friend of mine stood up in response and said “for God so loved the world that He GAVE, you can’t separate giving from love” and the response earned him the guy of the day award from all the ladies that were present, though the response didn’t go down well with we guys.

“NEVER WAIT FOR THAT BIG YES IN CAPITAL LETTERS BEFORE LEARNING TO GIVE”

You are welcome to yet another edition of #LOVE_ &_YOU

We are looking at the part 4 of

#Understand_her_LOVE_Language , as we shall be focusing on the topic:

RECEIVING GIFTS .

There are partners whose major love language is receiving gift, don’t mistake this love language for materialism; these partners thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you.

Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.

To a Gifts-speaker, a gift is a physical reminder that he or she was on your mind and that the person cared enough to get it for the other person. Speaking of this language to your partner may seem like a small gesture to you, but it says, “Even though I was not with you, you were on my mind” to your gift-loving sweetheart.

Maybe you are concerned that you will go broke trying to show love to your significant other, but let me put your mind at ease: if your boyfriend or girlfriend speaks the love language of Gifts, you will not have to spend a lot of money to show that you care. He or she is not interested in your breaking the bank or spending beyond your means (and if he or she is, that is not tied to the love language of Gifts and is a red flag you need to address). What your honey is looking for is intentionality …proof that he or she is on your mind.

Recommendations for Showing Love to Someone through Gift- Giving

Make Any Day a holiday

There is no need to wait for a formal holiday to give gifts to your honey. Use the “national” holidays. For instance: today, August 14 , is National ice cream Day. August 17 will be National Shopping Day. Or, take December 27 (his/her birthday) which is Name Your surprise Day (which is appropriate since he/she likes doing that! – who knows!?!) Or, perhaps you can make your own holiday with your sweetheart! Choose a day and make it a holiday. Plan out its name and if it’s publicly or privately celebrated. Are any specific foods involved? Are activities involved? Have fun with it!

Gift-lovers are happy with spontaneous gifts and if you want to make them especially excited, have a gift delivered to their jobs! This is a big-time winner because it not only took effort to buy it, but you had to arrange for it to be delivered as well. Additionally, he or she will often beam with pride and show it to their friends to show others how much you love him or her. You will earn some serious points for this one!

Always Be on the Look out for Small Gifts

Notice what he or she likes. What kind of gum does she always buy? What is his favorite snacks? Where does she always shop for shoes? What store does he always wander into for his shopping? By paying attention to his or her likes and dislikes, you can keep a constant stream of small, thoughtful gifts coming. For a Gifts person, her favorite gum or his favorite snacks is a bona fide gift. “Thank you so much for thinking of me and noticing what I like. You must love me! ”

Never Return from a Trip without a Souvenir or a gift

Find something fun on all your travels and make a point to always bring a small gift back for your honey. It does not need to be big and flashy. It just needs to be a physical reminder of an emotional truth – you love him / you love her. ” Again, it does not have to be big or expensive; it just has to come from the heart.

Make Sure Christmas, Birthdays, and Anniversaries are a GIANT DEAL

Never, never, never skimp on a birthday for a Gifts person. Please, whatever you do, make birthdays as sacred as possible. After all, your gift-loving honey loves holidays devoted to giving and receiving gifts. Chances are he or she will make a big deal out of your birthdays, so be sure to do the same in return.

Anniversaries are also a special moment for a couple. For a gift-giver, make sure to celebrate it with a physical reminder of your love for her. He or she will really appreciate the sentimentality it creates over the years as the tradition is upheld.

Additionally, make sure Christmas is done right, too. Even if you have to cut back financially and get really creative, try to make sure you give your gift lover something special and heartfelt on Christmas morning (and some of the most meaningful gifts can be made, not bought – created from the heart). And if he or she cannot wait until after breakfast to open gifts, humor him or her. After all, your sweetheart is just as excited (if not more so) about giving you a gift as he or she is about receiving one

.Give Gifts When your Sweetheart is Insecure

Did you have a fight and your girlfriend is wondering where she stands? Bring her a small, loving gift when you seek reconciliation. This is not an attempt to buy her off. In fact, don’t even show her the gift until after you have talked through the issue and reconciled. Giving her the gift after will show her that you not only wanted to reconcile, but that even before you made up you still wanted to make her happy. It is a good move, fellas!

Has your man had a string of disappointments lately? Has his self- confidence been rattled? Encourage him with a gift. If he has a favorite quote, find it or have it engraved on a plague and bring it to him. Is his music collection missing one key album? See if you can find it and give it to him as a pick me up. Sometimes we cannot take our loved ones’ difficult circumstances away, but we can find ways to love and support them through it.

Do Not Get Lazy with your Gift Giving

If you bring flowers every Friday to your lady with no enthusiasm, she will likely not feel loved through it. In fact, it will be counterproductive. If you bring him a new tool every time you go to the shop and you fling it on the table or at him and say, “Here, this is for you” he may like the tool but feel no love radiating from your good deed. Remember that it is not only about the physical item, but about the excitement you have in giving it. If your giving becomes obviously routine or joyless, your sweetie would likely much prefer you forget the gift. If there is a Gifts person in your relationship (you or the other person), make sure to discuss this dynamic with each other.

Learn_to_Love_Giving

Giving gifts just does not come naturally to some people; in fact, is stresses some people out. Instead of enjoying the hustle and bustle of Christmas shopping, they despise the crowds and hate the pressure of finding the perfect gift. If they could have it their way, Christmas would no longer include the exchanging of gifts.

If you do not enjoy buying gifts, or it does not occur to you to buy gifts, ask for help. ~smile~ Be proactive and ask your sweetheart what lights up her day. Ask your man what surprises he enjoys. Then, make yourself notes to plan those surprises. Put a memo on your phone, microsoft Outlook (or other digital calendar) is a great place to set up reminders. Pick several random days and put “surprise gift” on your calendar.

After you do it for a while, it will get easier. Before long you will be thinking about your sweetheart when you are at the grocery store, the mall, or a random shop, and you will become quite adept at finding small gifts for your honey wherever you go. A steady flow of thoughtful gifts will keep love gushing into your gift lover’s love tank!

Conclusion

“All theories without practical will always end in the head”

Its not enough to speak love, show it

Its not enough to open your heart to love, open your hand to also give.

Its not enough to imagine love, prove it.

Ocheh Emmanuel.

This is  LOVE&YOU on Treasure Network with Ocheh Emmanuel .

See you same time, next week as we shall look QUALITY TIME

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Posted by on July 9, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

Entrepreneurship Today

Majority of the worlds populace (esp. Nigeria) believes they are wired to become an employee and nothing more. They believe by so doing, they would be successful and enjoy the good life. However, they is a select few (by choice) who have shattered the stereotypical idea of what it means to be successful by owning their own business. This all boils down to having the right mindset.
Good evening and welcome to today’s edition of Entrepreneurship Today from Treasure Networks. We are glad reaching you and we appreciate you taking out time to follow us on this program every week.

Today’s edition, we would be discussing “An entrepreneur’s mindset”. I believe you agree with me when I say mindset is what separates the best from the rest. Entrepreneurs are not born, they are made. It was Peter Drucker who said “most of what you hear about entrepreneurs are all wrong. Its not magic, its not mysterious and it has nothing to do with genes. It’s a discipline, and like any other discipline, it can be learned”.

Financial times lexicon defines Entrepreneurs mindset as “… A specific state of mind which orientates human conduct towards entrepreneurial activities and outcome”. Individuals with entrepreneurial mindset are often drawn to opportunities, innovation and new value creation.

Mindset is one of the major determinant of success in pretty much every walk of life. In other words, the thinking patterns you habitually adopt largely govern the results you achieve. Either you are currently running a business of yours, or employed in someone’s business, having an entrepreneurial mindset is the key to growth. A business owner who still thinks like an average employee will experience stunted growth, while an employee who thinks like an entrepreneur will experience a sharp rise in his or her career. So you have to think differently to succeed. Here are some mindsets entrepreneurs hold dear and apply.

1. Responsible for all decisions: Entrepreneurs know they have the opportunity to create something from nothing and this will require making big decisions about what must be done, when and how. They don’t wait for things to happen or for someone to help them decide. They take responsibility of making decisions promptly regardless of the situation or outcome. They understand that opportunities are short lived and at such develop a sense of urgency that helps achieve their goals.

2. Fearless: “Where most avoid risk, entrepreneurs see potential” Robert Irvine. True Entrepreneurs can leverage anything to amass funds they need for their startups. These are the ultimate optimists, because they believe their investment of time and money will eventually pay off.

3. Learning is continuous: Employees all have a job description requiring a specific skill, hence no desire to learn more. But entrepreneurs involve themselves in learning many skills ranging from getting investors on board, marketing your idea,learning to setup a spreadsheet or even using an unfamiliar technology. What needs to be done, has to be done. There is no room for excuses.

4. Love of challenges: When confronted by problems, many with an employees mindset shy away but entrepreneurs on the other hand rise to the occasion. An entrepreneur doesn’t think anything is insurmountable, he looks at adversity in the eye and keeps going.

5. Value of mistakes: recently read a book by Sam Walton ( one of the richest men in America) and I learnt ” not only should I not fear mistakes but I should value them”. You may ask, why should you value a mistake? This is why: each mistake you make teaches you more about yourself and your business. Entrepreneurs know this and it has made them better.

Entrepreneurs are set apart by their ability to stay driven and passionate about their purpose especially when things aren’t easy. Keep your goals, visions and mission at the forefront of your mind at all times and you will definitely be taking on the mindset of a real entrepreneur. As one of my mentors would always say ” faces don’t change the world, minds do”. I urge you to cultivate a healthy entrepreneurial mindset either you are an employee or business owner and watch your life being transformed.

I hope we have added value to you today. Thanks for joining us on today’s edition of #Entrepreneurship_Today. We love to hear from you as you leave a comment below or write us at tnetwork430@gmail.com

Don’t forget to join us next week for another interesting edition. I am Aaron Iko-ojo have a great weekend.

 
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Posted by on July 7, 2017 in Uncategorized

 

#Heralds17

​On Heralds this week is…..

Strive Masiyiwa 
He is a Zimbabwean philanthropist and entrepreneur based in London. He was born on the 29th of January 1961. He had his primary education in Zambia but moved to Scotland to complete his secondary education. He thereafter proceeded to the university of wales where he obtained a degree in Electrical Engineering. He is the chairman and founder of Econet wireless. 

What actually interested me most about this man abd obviously lead to his being featured on heralds this week is that he has used his wealth to provide scholarship to over 100, 000 young Africans in the past twenty years through his family foundation. Aside from that its also on the records that he supports over 40,000 orphans with educational initiatives, as well as sponsoring students at universities in America, The United Kingdom, and China. He has actually won so many international and local recognition due to his excellence in business and most especially due to this generous lifestyle of his. Masiyiwa is regarded as one of African’s most generous personalities and is a member of the Africa Progress Panel. He is married to Mrs Tsitsi Masiyiwa and they have six children.

Moral Lessons

You may be wondering what to learn from this legend. Its not far fetched, its glaring and it is the giving lifestyle. How often do you consider giving back to the society from the little you think you have. Little wonder why the rich keeps getting richer and the poor maintain their stand. The scriptures can not be broken givers will never lack. Stop waiting for the wealthiest people to give you, you also find someone or some people to bless and make happy to thank God for the way your supposed little blessings is affecting them. Learn to give back to the society and you will eventually find out that its part of the reasons why Job in the Bible was the wealthiest from the east. Masiyiwa may not be the wealthiest man on earth but over 100 thousand people have had reasons to smile because he existed. Yours may just be one person and not 100 thousand so find that person or those people.

Its being Heralds with Julius O. Akubo on Treasure network. catch you next week.

Don’t forget to download, read and share the just released Treasure Magazine volume 7.

Wishing you a blessed week..

 
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Posted by on July 3, 2017 in Uncategorized